You often seek love from others when you can give it to yourself.
You always give love to other people but why can’t you give it to yourself?
Self-love may seem like a difficult concept to grasp. It’s like trying to grow a garden in rocky soil; it requires patience, care, and the right conditions to truly flourish.
We often wonder how we can love ourselves when we feel there’s nothing lovable about us in the first place.
We’re covered in wounds, some healed and some are still fresh. This makes it challenging to understand why we find it easier to love others while struggling to love ourselves.
We always give love to others and yearn for their affection in return. But must we always depend on others’ love and validation to appreciate ourselves?
Why do we prioritize loving others over ourselves when it’s supposed to be the other way around?
The problem is that we tend to focus on our flaws, insecurities, and mistakes, while ignoring the hidden aspects of ourselves that deserve recognition. We see only the worst in ourselves, overlooking the beauty that lies within.
When I looked at my reflection more closely, I noticed the beauty in my eyes and realized my skin needed care. I recognized the importance of taking care of my body by investing in skincare, eating well, exercising, and getting enough sleep. I need to rest, enjoy my hobbies, take myself out on dates, and study well for my future. I need to live, not just survive.
Reflecting on past challenges, I’ve seen how I managed to handle difficult situations when I barely can and with kindness, even when the world around me was harsh.
What I’m trying to imply is that self-love starts with taking good care of yourself and recognizing your own worth.
Self-love is when you appreciate and prioritize yourself above anyone else’s and living a peaceful and quiet life. It’s when you protect your peace and value and enjoying your own company. It’s when you focus on you, you don’t care to be seen, you don’t care to prove a point to anyone. You are content living, elevating in peace.
Self-love is choosing yourself, and choosing yourself is an act of self-care. It’s not selfish, and you cannot truly love others until you know how to love yourself.
Love must begin with self-love. It needs to start with you, and other kinds of love will naturally follow.
“When a girl falls in love with herself, the whole world falls in love with her.”
To the one reading this: You can always give and receive love, but remember to give it to yourself first. Life is short — love yourself more.
Give yourself the love you’ve been offering to others and be the love you’ve always desired to receive.
